A changing mindset

I was struck recently by how hard we can be on ourselves. I was talking to a friend and she was so focused on telling me everything that she wasn’t she forgot to tell me what she was.

I don’t know why, but it’s easier to be harsher, stricter on yourself than you would be on a friend in the position that you’re currently in. Maybe it’s the world we live in, but we allow ourselves to be overly critical of our supposed faults and flaws. We become engulfed by our fears that dictate the way in which we live our life.

It’s not healthy. Living a life with a mind fixed on negativity does no one any good. What we really should be focusing on are our qualities that we can be proud of…

Whether you’re a hard-worker, someone who goes far beyond what is expected of them…

Whether you’re selfless, someone who lives to help others in need…

Whether you’re trustful, someone on whom we can rely…

Don’t be afraid. Be proud of who you are and what you have achieved.

What quality do you most admire in yourself?

This is not the place for being modest! 😉


18 Comments Add yours

  1. Great idea for a topic! I’d say the quality I most admire in myself is my resilience. This isn’t to say that I have always been so. Indeed I think it’s only over time that I’ve learnt how to use my logic to unravel depressions lies. I also have a better work ethic than

  2. Apologies I posted that by accident!

    ‘than I ever had at university. Somewhat ironically I know. But then maybe this is a universal experience for many who combat some form of mental illness over a long period of time.’

    1. M_McKeen says:

      I think the resilience we develop as a result of illness is something we underestimate a lot. Life is so much harder than we are led to believe, even more so when suffering from depression. The experiences we go through help to shape who we are today, and I can definitely agree with you that depression, in a funny way, has made us stronger.

  3. This is a great post, Matt, and I hope you realize how wonderful YOU are!

    1. M_McKeen says:

      Thanks B, you always have such kind things to say to me! 🙂

  4. Great post with a beautiful and honest message!

    1. M_McKeen says:

      Thank you Claudia 🙂

  5. carlalouise89 says:

    I love this!!!
    I guess in answer to your question … I think my best quality is I seem to empathise with almost everyone. I can disagree with a lot of things, but I can still (quite often, but not always) see their side as well, and why they may have done what they did. Does that make sense? I mean, I don’t just empathise and sympathise with people that are “easy” to feel that way for. I feel that way for almost everyone.

    1. M_McKeen says:

      Yeah I get what you mean. You can see other peoples point of view but that doesn’t always mean you agree with them. It’s like the two sides of a balanced argument I used to have to write for school, haha! Empathy is definitely something that illness has helped me to develop too, don’t get me wrong I could definitely do a little better though. You can see it in your writing btw 🙂

      1. carlalouise89 says:

        Yes, exactly! Yeah, I hated writing those arguments. I’d be like, BUT I DON’T AGREE WITH THE OTHER SIDE! You can see my empathy in my writing? Or my I can see the other side? Either is good, btw! And thank you so much!

      2. M_McKeen says:

        Definitely the empathy, but a bit of both to be honest! You’re welcome! 🙂

      3. carlalouise89 says:

        Thank you!!

  6. If you’re looking for something to pass the time I’ve nominated you for an award over on my blog:)x

    1. M_McKeen says:

      Have you got a link?? I can’t connect to your blog at the moment for some reason, would love to read it though! 🙂

  7. Miriam Miles says:

    I think you’ve hit the nail on the head. Being so hard on ourselves is a surefire way to stay in a negative mindset. I have been battling this particular one for quite a while and am still in the thick of the fight.

    But I appreciate your thoughts and in answer to your question, I think the thing I admire about myself is that I am unafraid of the Rabbit Hole; I am not scared to dive into both the dark days and the light ones and search for meaning in them.

    I realise that is a far less tangible quality than being considerate or selfless, etc., but it’s the one thing that seems to make me unique, and the one thing I see in myself that I don’t fear.

    1. M_McKeen says:

      It’s still a great answer, and it’s something I hadn’t considered before, but a fantastic quality to have nonetheless! Life can be scary sometimes, I wish you every success in the future! 🙂

      1. Miriam Miles says:

        Well it’s been almost a month since I intended to reply to this! Woops 🙂 Thanks for your thoughts too – all the best!

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