Regret is a powerful emotion, but it doesn’t have to be a negative one; if we can use it as an agent of change to alter our perspective and to create a better future, then it is worth all the suffering.
I used to struggle with regret; the list of missed opportunities haunted me. I wasn’t happy with the way my life was heading, and used to dream of the things I’d change if I could go back in time. How different my life would be if I could restart.
It didn’t take me long to realise that this mindset wasn’t healthy. How are we supposed to live in the present and plan for the future, if we can’t let go of our decisions in the past?
Now my aim is to be happy with my lot and not bemoan the events in my life. If something doesn’t go the way I want it to, what use is there in making a fuss. It’s much better to revaluate, take stock, and be ready for the next opportunity that comes around. There will always be another.
I shall leave you with a question that I often ask myself, when I’m stuck and need to make a decision. I hope it can help you too!
What will I regret more – not giving it a shot or taking a punt and it not paying off, leaving me to deal with the consequences?