Sometimes we don’t know what to say so we say nothing. We all do it. After hearing some bad news like a passing of a friend’s relative or perhaps when that very same friend opens up to you for the first time and confides in you the emotions that have been weighing them down. We try to change the conversation, anything to remove the awkwardness. But it’s futile because you can’t unsay a word once it’s been spoken. We try to forget. To move on. To pretend that it never happened. To airbrush the event from history, but yet it still remains.
Our reasoning is built on the commonly mis-held belief that if we don’t say anything then we can’t say anything wrong. But we don’t realise the deeper impact our silence can make. Remaining silent allows the sufferer to think that they were right and that in fact no one does care about them. To put it simply, we fail to acknowledge the existence of the issue and the importance of our friend’s emotions.
We rely on our friends to be there for us when the world is against us, to lend a supportive ear that allows us to express our innermost feelings. So we need to be there for them to. It’s better to say something than nothing at all. Show that you care, don’t let them fall.